In my last newsletter, I talked about confidence being a business killer. But I want to dig a little deeper into this subject— especially on the heels of Robin Williams’ death from an apparent depression-related suicide.
Depression can override your ability to be confident in both life and business -- leaving you unhappy and penniless.
And if you’re like most of us, myself included, you’ve probably suffered from depression at various intervals of your life, be it from a personal setback like the death of a family member or a financial setback such as a lay off.
And just like that the thrill is gone...from living life and managing your business.
Today, I’m going to share with you my personal tips for dealing with depression, some obvious and not-so obvious. Please note, this IS NOT a substitute for professional help that may be required from a mental health provider. If you need immediate help, go HERE.
-->IT’S ALL IN THE NOSE: I have found aromatherapy to be one of the best external methods of dealing with depression. Aromatherapy extracts the healing properties from the plant so that it can be used in its most concentrated form. These are known as essential oils. My favorite is lemongrass, which is very good for depression. To use, dilute 1-3 drops in a bowl of cold water and pour DIRECTLY onto your scalp. I usually feel the effects within a few minutes. One place you can get essential oils is from Wholefoods.
-->CAN’T SLEEP?: Sometimes depression causes sleepless nights because your mind is so agitated. You can use the same above technique, but with lavender essential oil; or you can put 1-3 drops of the oil onto your pillow and should fall asleep within minutes. This works like a charm for me EVERY time.
-->HYPNOTIZE YOURSELF: Sounds strange, but I use self-hypnosis every night via the mp3’s I downloaded onto my cell phone. I listen to it as I am going asleep because that is scientifically the BEST time to re-program your subconscious mind to think differently. I use the hypnotherapy mp3’s from Steve G. Jones because he uses sounds of the ocean over the hypnosis. You can check out a sample HERE. Since I’ve started using them, I’ve noticed I am more confident and get less agitated by challenges when they pop up. Alternatively, you can even make your own self hypnosis mp3 by recording your affirmations on any audio software that you can convert to an mp3 (like Free Conference Call) and download the mp3 onto your phone or computer. If you’d like to have a long recording of you repeating a particular affirmation, you can use Audacity, a free audio editing software, to do this.
-->HAPPY KIT: I’ve shared this one before, and I’m sharing it again because it really works. Keep a box of things that INSTANTLY put a smile on your face. In mine, I have: my favorite comedies, favorite songs, a PRE-PAID gift certificate for a massage, my aromatherapy. When you’re deep into a depressive episode, it’s hard to think of ALL of the things that make you happy. However, it’s much easier to remember a designated place like your Happy Kit box to go to when you’re down. Also, by pre-paying for a massage gift certificate you eliminate any financial excuses not to get it when you’re down. For more info on how to put one together, check out my previous blog post HERE.
-->GRAB YOUR PEN: Journal about what’s making you sad. Then follow it up with a list of all that you are grateful for. This enables you to get it all out and validate what IS going right in your life.
-->YOUR INNER DJ: Throw on your favorite happy songs and dance in your living room (it will increase the endorphins in your brain: happy hormones), then follow it up with the lemongrass tip above and you should notice an immediate improvement
-->CHAT IT AWAY: Now is the time to call in your support system. I’m talking about the people who put an instant smile on your face like your favorite aunt or favorite cousin who are great at helping you get back to your happy place. I'm a HUGE advocate of therapy. It has helped me tremendously in the past, so if you need professional help, check out Pretty Padded Room, a web site that was featured on “Shark Tank,” that offers professional counseling online: https://prettypaddedroom.com/
-->BE PROACTIVE: When I was going through my break up, I noticed I got particularly sad in the evening when I was alone and didn’t have work to distract me. To deal with this, I PRE-SCHEDULED commitments like fun classes in the evening with friends. Or volunteered my time in the community. If you notice there’s a particular time of day you tend to get depressed, schedule a fun activity or get together with a friend so that you don’t have time to sink into a deep depression. You don’t want to ignore the emotion, so make a pack with your friend that “we’re going to discuss how I’m feeling for 30 minutes, then we’re going out and not bringing the subject back up.” This way, you are honoring your feelings by getting it out, then ending the evening on a positive note by engaging in the fun activity.
BONUS TIP: If you own a business, delegate some extra tasks to your (virtual) assistant to minimize overwhelm.
Do you have a personal tip for dealing with depression? If so, share it in the comment section below.